How to set well-formed outcomes or goals
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"Find a quiet place and sit down. Make sure that your well-formed outcome is clear in your mind and that you have a specific time in the future when you know you want it. Bring a picture of it up. See what you see, hear what you hear and feel what you feel. Now make the picture really compelling."
So let’s get going and get a crystal clear and compelling description of the end result that you want. As you work through these points write down your outcome in your workbook or journal.
 
Outcome expressed in the positive
Write down what you want. If you only know what you don’t want then shift it into the positive by asking, “If I didn’t have that what would I have instead?” So you could say “I don’t want to be disorganised and then change that to “I want to be organised”.
 
Sometimes goals can be specific activities and if you ask yourself the question “and what will that give me?” it adds to the positive outcome. So “I’m going to write a list of my important things to do every day before I finish work.” If you ask yourself what that will give you it might be a calm, organised and focussed outlook. So you could write an outcome saying “I’m going to write a list of my important things to do every day before I finish work and that will give me peace, organisation and focus”. Write down your positive outcome in your workbook.
 
Sensory-specific evidence
Identify the moment in time when you will be able to say “I’ve done it!!!” Write down what you are seeing, hearing and feeling at that precise moment. A possible scenario is that “I will see myself in a new house, I‘m hearing the chatter from my friends  and I’m feeling proud, confident and hopeful”. Or possibly it will be that “I‘m seeing my bank balance at the figure that I set, I‘m hearing my family chattering away and I‘m feeling balanced and content.” You can also include what you are saying to yourself at the same time. Write that down in your workbook.
 
Under your control
Make sure that you are in control of this outcome. If you are relying on funding or other people changing their Model of the World, you may want to think again.

Context
Make sure that you have identified where and when you want it. Also when and where you don’t want it. Also, ask yourself with whom you want it and with whom you don’t want it. Write that down.
 
Ecology
Imagine yourself having achieved the outcome that you have set. Can you notice any conflicts when you are out there in the future?
 
Use your imagination.
Here is a really cool technique to absolutely embed your goals in your mind: find a quiet place and sit down. Make sure that your well-formed outcome is clear in your mind and that you have a specific time in the future when you know you want it. Bring a picture of it up. See what you see, hear what you hear and feel what you feel. Now make the picture really compelling. Change the visual elements to make the picture even better – the colour, the brightness, the focus and the movement. Ask yourself what you can hear and change the sounds to make the picture in your mind really compelling. Decide on what feelings you have when you get this compelling outcome and then turn them up to the maximum (like a radio dial).
 
Once you have made this picture really compelling, count to three and then clap your hands and seal this picture in your mind. You will be able to bring this picture up again very easily and that will make it easier to achieve your outcome.
 
Now what you need to do is practice, practice practice! Set compelling goals for the day, for the month, for the year. Have some fun and you will then be easily able to take action. You will notice if your goals are not compelling and what you need to do to make them compelling. You will have also spotted any conflicts with your purpose, identity, values and beliefs.
 
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